So how do we respond when we're getting anger from someone we love, and we don't know why?
I'm not trying to bash. Just trying to remind you of what you already know.
When the pizza is too hot straight out of the oven, you have to let it sit and cool. You can blow on it and try to eat it anyway, but you run a good risk of burning your mouth in the process.
She's hot. For whatever reason. You have to let her cool.
If you try playing games with her now (i.e. the pet name calling that she made clear she didn't want to hear), you're going to end up with a burnt mouth.
Pull back. Let it rest for a bit. In a couple weeks you can do something sweet like sending her a card with an honest message inside. Maybe something like, "F, I'm sorry how things unfolded. Not sure where things got off track, but I'm sorry if I caused you any pain. Just sending this to let you know that I was thinking about you. Fondly."
Whatever happened here, and it seems like a combination of things, pressure is not going to fix it, and I think you know that.
That doesn't keep it from staying on your mind, or from making you ache inside a bit.
But think it thru. If this truly was something good and worth fighting for, remember that sometimes fighting means stepping back.
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
