I'm also very concerned. In this phase, I've admitted to her that I have made some mistakes, but if we are to ever work, she'll have to make some major concessions on her own.
Even if she said she wanted back today, I wouldn't be living w/ her again. We'd be in separate residences, be in individual and couples counseling/therapy, and basically try and "date" again to see if we can be together after all.
I definitely wouldn't blindly get back into this and I wouldn't even jump in w/ two feet. In fact, I'd be a bit cautious of even putting a toe in the water right now.
There must be some MASSIVE movement on her part, beginning w/ her admitting that she was not being truthful w/ the stories she told about me and us. I didn't "destroy" her, but she seems to think that I did. I'll own up to my part in everything, but I'd just be repeating a cycle if I returned to a W who will not take up responsibility for her role in all of this. You are absolutely correct that she is completely wrapped up in "my faults" and we can't move forward until she looks at "her faults." I'm owning my end of the deal and maybe in time, she'll realize there was much more than me causing our issues.
I'm very glad to see your concern and I need to hear these things in order to make sure I stay grounded and in check w/ reality and what is the correct course to take.
Thanks for your insight and for letting me know I handled it well w/ W. Now, like you said, it isn't time for me to nurse this back to health, but for me to just continue to play my part and let W come to the realization that this is what she wants. If she gets to that point, we can actually have some serious discussions about us.
Only time will tell. I did just see her a bit ago as I picked up D. She looked me in the eye a few times which is different as she usually works hard to avoid eye contact or any sort of conversation w/ me. We talked about a few things and it was a nice exchange.
Again, I do need to be very, very wary and cautious, and I will. In the short run, it is nice to be able to be w/ her w/out so much tension spewing forth from her toward me.
Will things change? Maybe, maybe not. Again, time and patience are the only two weapons I have right now and I just need to ride things out to see how they finish.
Thanks again. I can't pur a price on the value of your wisdom to me in my sitch, sir. Thank you very much.
