For the Guy with Kids and a WW4

[hopeful4her]

Thank you, Puppy.

I now that I sounded like I was ready to concede, but that is not what I want. I do not want tonight to escalate like all of our discussion about the kids. I have to try to negotiate with her. Try to appeal to her senses. In her mind, she is not breaking up the family. We will still be a family, but in two seperate familial households.

She is quite the thinker, huh.

I think that I will reiterate what I have told her in the past. She has always said joint custody. She just wants to have physical custody. I am willing to have them 50/50 at the least. I don't know if I should just concede to that first. 50/50. Not even discuss them staying with me or her full time. I would be ok with 50/50. I think THAT would be my dealbreaker.

I am not sure what her discussion with the girls was, but they seem ok with leaving with her. It is ME that they are worried about. Being alone. D11 understands. It is D6 that is having a hard to understanding. Hard for her to comprehend, of course.

I just feel so discombobulated right now. I am going to rely on our talk tonight. Put everything on the line. Total honesty talk. Talk about what she thinks of me. Talk about what she thought about church. Ask her how she felt on Saturday watching how the girls reacted. Give her a copy of smartcookies post. Let her know I understand her but not her wanting to take the girls.

Or should I even go there?

I understand that in the state of Texas,(could be everywhere, I don't know)a 12 year old can decide with whom they can live.