I agree with you "staying in the drivers seat". Focus on your final NOT him. He's not your future. Getting this law degree IS. NiKB is correct. The court in not emotionally involved. He's not going to "drag" anyone anywhere. The court doesn't care about his opinion of you as a wife. He's delusional. One quick turn of the mirror by you, and he'd go up in flames anyway. Do what you want on your schedule.
In my last post to you, I said that he would not find happiness with some 21 year old, self-abuser, cutter. He volunteered for a deployment because of the "suck" back here to Iraq, which is even more pronouned if you've lived day after day at the precipice of death. It is a rush for some guys that nothing copmares too. He doesn't love the other woman either. she's not doing it for him either.
While I do think that PTSD is part of it, he is incredibly immature. Focus on you. Don't let him pull you into the vortex. You can't make him do anything. Don't let him have the option of doing that to you.
