Dr. Henry Cloud indicates that “Many couples are swept up in the fantasy that happiness is the supreme goal of marriage.” He continues, “But in reality, happiness is not a good goal for life or marriage. A much better goal is growth, and one of the by-products is happiness.”
The happiness myth is in that we very often rely upon our spouse to provide the happiness we seek in our marriage. The reality is that by so doing we are really giving them too much power over our own wellbeing; power that they do not have. Our own happiness is our own responsibility.
Thanks for the post, BH! I loved this and so true of both my H and I! I just got a book from Henry Cloud too (I'm a huge reader) and will start that next called "9 things you simply must do to succeed in love and life". Hopefully it will be really good! Karen
Karen
