As for LL, of course he isn't going to be there for you.
When do they really care about your pain, past in some cases a token gesture?
While in MLC he won't be there if you break your leg, have a bad day, or close friend or family member gets sick or dies to support you through it.
They just don't. You need and want support he cannot or will not provide. You deserve better than what his MLC can give you, and when he comes out of it, I hope he does, give you that support.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Kiki, i just cannot see him doing that...not even in MLC...I know they do crazy things, too. He knows he is messed up. I just cannot see him fathering a kid with someone else, unless of course it was an "oopsie"...and God knows these guys need OW to make them feel good.
I am surprised my friend has not texted me or called me back...
LL still has not texted me back...no shock there.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Honey, right now is not the time to be stressing over LL. You just lost your beloved pet, and you are still in mourning. You already know the stuff in our heads in usually much worse then the real story. Don't borrow trouble, keep your focus where it needs to be. ((((((((hugs))))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Thanks Jack, I really appreciate it. You are right, the MLCer cannot really be there for you in your time of need. He is so selfish right now...has been for a LONG time.
His gesture was to 'drink' to my beloved pet. Ugh.
I don't know if he will come out of it...i hope he does...but honestly, maybe I do need to move on...
LL is really messed up...i mean really bad. "Silent Son" bad.
This is so difficult...and sometimes it seems as if it will never end.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
You're right, BND, you're right. I DON'T need that right now...
My surgery is the 26th...I had just decided that with the doctor on Thursday afternoon and then Thursday evening, my bubby dies.
Then there is LL, in swim trunks tossing back beers and rubbing pregnant bellies like he hasn't a care in the world.
WTF?
I miss my dog...they give us unconditional love...and that has been such a Godsend to me...I still have Petunia, thank God. I hae to deal with the most important things right now...
Thanks for telling me not to stress, I really need not to stress over him.
Hugs, V
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller