A Very Rough Year - Breast Cancer & MLC

[TwinDad]

How did you find out she was texting him? Was it recent?

About 8 months ago we started a very rough patch and I convinced her to work on our M at least through the holidays. I thought things were going well and then right after Christmas she told that things weren't working out and that she was going to file for D. I was shocked quite a bit and decided to snoop a little and looked up the phone bill and noticed over 600 text messages between her and one other number over a 2 month period. They were all when I wasn't around. Once I figured out who it was it started to all come together. I don't feel it was ever a PA, but the fact that she would be texting him and I could even get her to answer the phone for me while she was out really hurt. I actually kept me cool and actually kept it to myself to see if it would run its course. What hurt the most was when we were on "our" vacation and she was on the back deck texting without my knowledge while I was getting the kids settled down into bed so we could enjoy the hot tub! I think it has pretty much run its course. I think our Separation has actually helped put things in perspective for her.

I feel that you are a very good communicator!

Thanks that is kind, though I will say I don't know when to shut up, I find myself trying to explain my feeling so much instead of just stating them that I get accused of lecturing (probably rightfully so...... lol)

I think your H is already missing having fun with you a little bit, just look at his reacion from you going to the open house!