Yes, I'd have to see it as a positive. It certainly wasn't a negative as she did open up again. I offered to support her if the worst happened and my offer of the holidays was to allow her to take D w/ her as well. It may be the last times they'll see him if things keep going as they currently are, so I would never want to deprive either of them of that opportunity.
As for me, yes, W's statement of her unhappiness did wake me up and it was a total surprise. I had zero idea it was coming and never thought she was unhappy being married to me. I'm still in therapy and I'm not looking to end it anytime soon. However, my current T doesn't want me to have any thoughts or feelings still alive about W. So, that is a bit dicey right now. Currently, I just focus on myself and how I'm progressing and try to leave W out of our sessions.
If we start to reconcile, I can always find a new therapist who will understand. Also, I think the landscape w/ my T would change tremendously if we were in T together to work on our relationship. But, that's a ways off yet, so there's not much need to go there now.
So for now, I'm just going to do as you suggested - be her friend and be supportive. I was really hoping for some question, you know, just something from her yesterday about our text chat the night before, but got nothing. I will say I was a bit disappointed, but not defeated. I was having a small bit of expectation, but more in a wish and hope sense. So, for now, I'll just sit back and wait for her to bring it up again. It may be today, or may not be today. Who really knows?
If we can stay on this productive course we're on now, it won't matter when it comes up again, will it?
