That would really hurt. How did you find out she was texting him? Was it recent? I feel that you are a very good communicator!
Your W does not know how lucky she is. My H does not text, barely uses a computer and only calls me on the cell if he needs something. That's why it was so painful when I opened the cell bill and saw that he was talking to his "friend" for 20 minutes a call.
I took several days off work this March to nurse him thru knee surgery. When I saw the bill I realized he had been on the phone to her early in the morning when I was out in the hot tub etc. I felt very betrayed. It still makes me angry to think about it.
Part of what gets to me is that my husband is kind of a jealous guy, and makes it known that he doesn't like it if someone pays too much attention to me. So, out of respect for his feelings, I have always tried not to put myself in a position that will hurt him. So, his making a fool of himself is a double hurt.
I know if I keep working on my DB’ing good things will come. I am a positive and upbeat person, and I have lots of friends. I think eventually he will “miss” having fun with me. I know I sure miss him.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
