My response to this comment from her would have been immediate, firm, and sincere...
"I'm not looking for a future partner. I've already found the woman that I plan to spend the rest of my life with."
Yup, I was going to blame you anyway.
Seriously...that was what I was thinking, but I still go back and forth in my head picking the moments to let her know how truly committed I am in this. I know the actions are there, but not being able to talk about the relationship, or a future together negates most conversation about HOW I FEEL about her in all of this. I wonder how sometimes, other than my actions, how to let her know I am PLANNING to spend my life with her.
Having been the "alpha male" in this marriage for so long, most times with disastrous results, I think sometimes I walk a fine line.
The response you suggested makes me feel now like it was missed opportunity to make a statement, even if it was a subliminal one. Have to pay more attention next time.
