In most cases an EA is worse than a PA because all the emotional energy needed to address the problems in your M is being directed towards someone else.
My wife's EA is draining on our relationship IMO. I hate my wife's EA. I am working on getting my wife to come to me, but she tells me it's hard to talk to me because for so many years, I was not there for her. I can't argue with her on that. As hard as it is, my strategy is patience.
I thought about taking your advice and posting this thread in Newcomers. I thought this forum was for WASs as well as LBSs.
