The way I see it, being good friends with benefits is EXACTLY what one should want/expect of a long-term M with kids--but these foolish spouses of ours fixate on some feeling that's missing, yet refuse to do anything to rekindle that romance.
That is exactly what I think. What is wrong with being married to your best friend? She seems to think something is missing [just like your husband], but for the past few months has not been able to figure it out. She thinks the only way for her figure it out is for her to be on her own, but she won't leave because of the kids and for financial reasons.
I know she has these feelings with her OM. I can't help the fact that we don't have the newness of being together like she has with her OM. The newness wears off after 16 years and two kids.
Originally Posted By: lovemyguy
What does your W think of her actions in terms of the effect on your kids?
She is very worried about how her actions will affect the kids. That's the main reason for her not leaving.
