We actually had a very good weekend together as a family and as a couple. I paid very close attention to my attitudes and the behaviors that I have engaged in that made me feel less of a man etc. In other words, sticking to my personal 180's.
Then came Sunday night. We had agreed to take some relaxed "married time" after we put the kids to bed. As the evening progressed, we started having little spats, but I noticed my wife was making efforts to get past them. When we actually went to bed, the wife comes out of the bathroom and starts making comments about how I don't look ready to do anything or how the room isn't prepped or whatever. In my own defense, these are usually critical comments and excuses to get out of sex. Last night, they weren't, she was joking and I completely missed it!
I got really defensive and that precipitated a huge fight. Neither of us slept well etc etc. This morning, as we were trying to discuss things, she made the comment that she had really worked up her courage to enjoy the evening together as she generally has no desire for sex (her words) and this is what she gets. Oh, man. I finally get what I am asking for and I screwed it up!
Her final comment of the morning as I head out the door, "why are things always so hard in our relationship?"
