Twin, Thanks for the positive comments. I know that you're right. His self esteem right now is about zero. If I could just get over thinking that every little thing he does is about me, I would be happier and better able to handle this. As I'm sure you also have experienced, this whole thing has chipped away at my self confidence. It’s so hard to watch him flirting and having a good time with another woman when I want it so very much to be me. And then when our friends notice and start to comment…. It hurts.
I got this email from my GF this morning about our Friday night. She was very happy I have decided to stop in from time to time:
That's my girl. The pub has always been the place that the two of you met up with both of your friends.
It's not the place for him to hit on other women - especially in front of you. Like no one can see what he is doing? Isn't that exactly what everyone was complaining about with his brother? If you're going to be disrespectful of your spouse - take it out of town. No one wants it in their faces. It just makes people think less of the offending party. I'll get off my soapbox now.....
So, my friends here and you guys are keeping me together.
I'm very happy for you. When I didn't hear back over the weekend I hoped that you and your W were together! It sounds as if things are moving in a good direction for you. It’s encouraging to see that your DB skills and practices are paying positive results.
My H did not attend the open house for my niece this weekend. But he didn’t go up north either. It was a nice party and it was hard to attend alone, but I had a good time and invited my youngest son and his girlfriend out to dinner after. When I returned from the party he asked all kinds of questions about it. After we went to be he said “I’m sorry I didn’t go to the open house with you.” And I simply said “me too.”
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
