custody hearing on friday -- so scared

[phbear316]

Morning Maryangela

Listen, you just have new day, new job butterflies. Its ok. Take a deep breath. You will be fine.

You know what, going back to work is probably the best thing for you, It will keep your mind off of what you think your h is trying to do to you. YOu will be thinking about all the new things you have to do in your new job. And all the new people you are going to meet.

Embrace it. For you never know what kind of friends you are going to make in this new job.

Its been over two years since h and I have been having problems and one year ago since he dropped the bomb on me about the affair. Not one day did I not get myself out of bed and go to work. I have only called out sick two days in the last two years.

My friends at work are like family to me, they make me laugh and keep me on my toes. There for me when i need a shoulder to cry on. Since I have been telling everyone that h and I are separated and getting a Divorce, they have been so much more supportive than I ever thought.

Take the high road Maryangela, not the low one. Be strong. Yes all the things you listed above hurt, I agree 100%. But you know what, you will begin to see the wrongs in all this.

You may think and you are letting yourself believe that he wants you to lose everything, destroy you. But you know what he will only be successful in that if you let me. Stand tall Maryangela, The more you show him what he is doing to you is getting to you, the more he is going to push you. Stand up, don't budge, start to learn to push back. Better yet, walk away from him, don't listen don't react to what he has to say. He starts again with the crap about the car, tell him really, well then that means you are entitled to half of the new car he bought.

Just remember everything in the marriage is split 50/50. Let that comment about the car run off you. Laugh at it. Listen he is going to have to pay child support to you and alimony how long have you been married? and what kind of job does he have? does he make more money than you!

These are all steps which you will take in time. Take it all one step at a time.

You need to take care of yourself first....

Have a wonderful new day at work. Tell us all about it later on!

hugs
bear