It sounds like it went really really well.. no awkward silences, lots of things in common (much of what you talk about makes no sense to me!). I wouldnt read too much into how he looked, like he wasnt making an effort for you, as he did kind of explain - his style had changed. Yours has too! Look how differently you were dressed! I guess you didnt tell him, oh hey I'm rocking a glamorous hot babe look now....
It didnt sound to me liek YOU strung it out, clearly he encouraged you to get desert (and not get your train) and then he ate the desert leisurely. So I wouldnt obsess about that.
So you didnt say whether or not you still fancied him/loved him when you saw him? I'm guessing you were put off by the beard, but other than that, how did you feel? Sinds to me like he is enjoying being a free agent (or has done) and really committed to his music and his career. Theres definetly no other woman on the scene by the looks, so thats a huge positive.
He probably said "Yeah, maybe sometime" in response to you saying lets meet again, because that was brave of you, but did put him on the spot. My BF STILL says "I might call you tonight, or tommorow, maybe" and I have seen him every week since February !! So dont worry about that, I think thats perfectly normal in the situation we are in.
Was there any spark at all? Oh and the not mentioning how good you look? Again, my BF never has done (and I have spent alot of money trying !!) and I dont recall Lisas saying anything for a long time (I think he did comment once?) not Kalni's H, so I think you may have been expecting too much if you were after a compliment!
Sounds like overall it was fun, positive, no backsliding, nobody cried, no awkwardness (apart from the traffic light incident), he said he wanted to send you a funny video clip (meaning he WANTED you to see it, to share it with you, which is good) and he said he would include you on the group email, again, thats good, he also looked pleased you'd be in town for a while.
Lets hope you get to see him again! I reckon you should rock a more casual style next time you see him (not so glam) to match his laid back style (he sounded kind of scruffy in the description you gave!), but you can still do your face and hair..
Well done you, you were yourself and I reckon he had an enjoyable evening. Dont beat yourself up, think of all the positives as you would say to me !!!
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
