Update; where do I start. WAW gave me a card thanking me for giving her my friendship and saying she was sort that she wasn't there for me for a while but she was there for me now. We've had a few joint outings with S3 and I was invited over for dinner with WAW, S3 and WAW's parents. Things seem to be superficially OK but I wonder why she wants a reconciliation. Is it money (she'd commented to friends how hard it was to find a rich man or any good man and I earn a good living)?
Tonight our Nanny who's leaving us b/c she can't deal with WAW's mood swings told me that one of WAW's friends had cornered her (the Nanny) up and said that the marriage was awful and WAW was happier now.
When the Nanny said she didn't know, she was told 'it's easy for outsiders you know'. WAW's friend was always a flake but for some reason this really annoyed me. I kept my cool and havn't reacted but the hurt and betrayal appear to be bubbling just beneath the surface for me.
I can still see the angry, bitchy WAW and that really worries me. I've changed so much, through DBing and through the simple neccssity of surviving a WAW. Burt has she, I can't tell and it's making me subconciously back off.
any advice from anyone???
-------- Me; 38 W; 34 1 4yr old S Married 4.5 yrs, together 9 yrs Bomb; 15 June 2007 Holiday together Sept 2008; My Dad dies Nov 2008; reconcliation fails Nov 2008