I was hoping that if I was patient enough and tried everything there was and prayed hard enough that you would see my efforts and and understand that I loved you. I asked God to change your heart and make me a better man and husband. You haven't made any effort to treat me any different than you did when we first got married. And as a testiment to how pathetic our marriage has become after eight years we still have unresolved arguments that date back to when we first got married.
Here's one example of non-communication. She says she wants help with the kids and the house. He says he tried -- he prayed hard. I'm sure he thinks he did something. And I'm sure she thinks he did nothing, because he could have prayed while sweeping, mopping, vacuuming or chasing after kids. They have the same arguments they had 8 years ago. That's nothing. My husband and I had the same argument for 28 years. That's not communication. That's being stuck and needing help.
Yes, action. Agreement to go to counseling and making it better. She can't just say "I'm sorry for being me. I will be the servant you want me to be." We women do have a gag reflex, and that's one of the sentences that triggers it.
