ill repost this here too, i posted in newcomers too...
ok! he sent me a text message tonight... i havent replied and he said as he would call me tomorrow, so ill see if he calls. when he does ill wait to reply. how long? we got an offer on our cabin thats for sale so i think i should at least reply to that part...when he calls, not tonight.
he doesnt want to counter offer..thats interesting bc we have had the house on the market since before the bomb...now that we finally have an offer during this separation- and he doesnt want to sell it??? i hope this is a god sign..mr. confused.
so i need to have a PMA! and i need to stay cool, calm and collected.
luckily i got to a better place today...i think thats what its all about....
he also asked how the dog was and said "i hope you are doing ok"...thats nice...but i wish he would ask "are you ok?" or "how ar you doing?"...thats more open ended and requires me to actually tell him. how funny...more of his fears of not wanting to know if he is hurting me...
so any recommendations?
part of the prob. in the past is that i made a lot of decisions for us...about this house thing i would persuade him to at least counter...should i recommend that or just let him take the lead and feel like he is in control?
i want all of the things we do from here on out to make him feel like he has control over his life...especially getting back together with me - that will be HIS decision so he cant have any excuses. so this house thing is a major way to SHOW him this...
do you see what i mean??
any advice would be great....
happy he contacted me though!
ill keep you updated but i really want advice before i reply to him... thanks!
ps. im reading my desperate posts here even a day or two ago- gosh- its amazing how our emotions can toy with us ....ROLLERCOASTER........ weeeeeeeeeeeee!!
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