I'm glad you think I handled that well. I was nervous responding at first, but then I said "this may be a true DBing opportunity, so I should look to take it." I did bring up R stuff w/ her, but only after her leads. I'm still going to continue to let her drive the train on R talks.
I spoke w/ her tonight when D called and she brought up her father again. It seems as if he's getting worse and may have colon cancer to go along w/ his NHL in his blood. She's a wreck and she started talking about Christmas and I told her to go ahead and take it as well as Thanksgiving this year as it may be the last ones w/ her father. I know I'm not supposed to give things like that away, but under this circumstance, I felt it was appropriate. I also restated my offer to support her through this as she needs me to.
Finally about finances, I'm in deep and can't wait to move the house to pay my load down substantially. If we don't D, we'll still have a massive train wreck from the process that will take a few years to clean up. I'm ok w/ where I'll be, but I'd really rather get it moving - the house sale, that is - so I can get what I owe into a more managable sum.
