Is she a simple WAW or MLC??

[Flipper]

Yeah, it's kind of hard to blame this on MLC if I had a scorching case of post traumatic stress disorder. I guess that would be enough for any spouse. Also, it does me no good to focus on her. I feel much better focusing on me. At least I have some positive control there. That is really where I need to maximize my time. I have to stop wondering about her and what she is doing.

You're absolutely right about not letting the D proceeding poison our relationship. When she served me the papers, she was shocked that I didn't nut-up or something. Instead, I remained loving and welcomed her phone calls. She has not brought up the property settlement lately. She is moving slowly. But the D is final in August and I will lose my medical insurance (I am on hers). So now I have to bring it up or lose my insurance. Just great! But I'll have to deal with it.