Just responding to MfromTenn over here on my thread:
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If you can get through this with no anger at all then I feel that there may be a spark left for you to work with..get pissed, angry and open your mouth at the wrong time and you can't recover I don't think.. Anger and bitterness having a way of killing love..
I agree, but this is also the piece I struggle with. W and I are best friends and we could be again if she'd just allow me. But she wouldn't and I stopped asking. Now I've gone dark.
It sounds like your first W was a manipulator. That's pretty crappy. My parents had a pretty nasty divorce and still won't talk to each other. They drug me into the middle of it and I vowed that would never be me - look at me now.
Will keep checking in you as you head towards mediation, even though I haven't posted much on your thread. lodo
Yes, manipulator, liar, thief, user. She was pretty bad. Most of the time when they decide they want a D. They don't turn back.
You have to make the decision when you want to move on. I guess I question, "if W and I D and 5 years down the road she comes back and says "I f'd up, I want you back"..do I really want to even consider giving her another chance?? I just don't think I could. I'm not mad or angry at her..I just think you have to move on. You have to let go or you're gonna drown in that spot you're hung in..
