Thanks YR I was led to write those words.

Treese,

If you dont want that negative outcome then you need to stop even saying it or thinking about it or being afraid of it. Just act like that word does not exist at all. It has no place in your life, marriage or thoughts.

Focus on what you want in your marriage. Take that to God. Don't tell your hubby. Tell God what you want.

The thing that kept me from fussing with my hubby was that when we fuss with them it sends them further in the wrong direction. I wanted to keep mine close to me. So I stopped fussing. I has some moments but for the most part I stopped. If I was being nice and cordial he had NOTHING to complain about, NOTHING to fuss about it. It showed. If someone asked him about me he just said he didnt want to talk about it because there was not anything negative to say.

So you had a moment today. Thats ok. Everyone has moments. You get to see hubby again tomorrow and again after that. You wills till have plenty of interactions with him to make sure those are all positive friendly interactions.

Don't think that the things he said right now are set in stone. God is no respector of persons. He changes the hearts of kings, he can change your hubby's. God restores all sorts of marriages he will restore your too. Just take it to Him. Take the focus OFF of hubby. Let God have him. Ask God how He wants to mold you and work on your relationship with Him.

QUIT SNATCHING HUBBY BACK FROM GOD!!!!! Take him to God and leave him there. When God has done all He needs to He will bring him back home.

I had to learn to stop doing that too. It was hard but you can do it.

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Last edited by HeartScared; 06/09/08 01:10 AM.