Just responding to MfromTenn over here on my thread:
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If you can get through this with no anger at all then I feel that there may be a spark left for you to work with..get pissed, angry and open your mouth at the wrong time and you can't recover I don't think.. Anger and bitterness having a way of killing love..
I agree, but this is also the piece I struggle with. W and I are best friends and we could be again if she'd just allow me. But she wouldn't and I stopped asking. Now I've gone dark.
It sounds like your first W was a manipulator. That's pretty crappy. My parents had a pretty nasty divorce and still won't talk to each other. They drug me into the middle of it and I vowed that would never be me - look at me now.
Will keep checking in you as you head towards mediation, even though I haven't posted much on your thread. lodo
