custody hearing on friday -- so scared

[phbear316]

((maryangela))

I want you go to the top of this page, and your post from 5:25pm today.

I want you to take a few deep breaths, clear your mind and re-read that post.

Honey, In your mind you are being made out to be this terrible person. Yes your h is pushing your buttons, trying to make you out to be this horrible person. Which you are not.

YOU need to believe you are not. You are allowing h to control you, He is putting you into a panic mode over the social workers.

Look the professionals who will deal with your case do not take one side and one side only, so your 5 year old loves her daddy. Good they should love their daddys.

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT SHE LOVES HER MOMMY TOO. You are not there when she with him, you don't know she is not asking for your even crying for you.

The child advocate who will work the case does not just listen to what a 5 year old has to say. Let the professionals do their work, you are doing nothing wrong.

Stop listening to him. NOW! shut him out humm a tune in your head. Pretend he sounds like the teacher from charlie brown, wah wahh wa wahh.

Keep control of yourself and your emotions. He is pushing your buttons he wants you to freak out and cry and carry on. Push you over the edge. But you know what you are not budging anymore. Your are a wall of concrete. You won't cry in front of him anymore. You will not cry in front of your D anymore. You will keep it together. Cry in private, in your shower in the am, or in your car. When no one can see you.

I cried every day when my h told me he was having an affair, and wants to divorce me to spend the rest of his life with the woman he now loves and her children. I have not cried in a long time, over him. Other things yes, over h no more.

Take him back, are you kidding I agree with NicB, we would all be standing here with 4x8's.

He is a bully and he is verbally abusing you. let your lawyer do the work, Your job is to love you D, and keep you head up high.

SHOW HIM AND ALL OF US HOW STRONG YOU ARE.

YOU CAN DO THIS

Believe in your heart, you are a good person, with a good sole. You will come thru this stronger than you will ever believe.

For that is happening to me now. I am stronger than i ever thought I could ever be. One step at a time. for this is my now.

Do you do any kind of exercise or relaxation techniques, they will help more than you would ever believe.

Hugs
bear