Sad to say the answers are hard to find as you say, talking about issues does not get a positive response and trying to ignore her is harder so I end up just watching tv with her and doing my best not to do anything that would further drive her away,today She has packed more stuff and been doing her "thing" online ?? but I have fixed the garage door and the AC that kind of stuff just coming in and seeing a pile of boxes grow hurts as it means the days must be getting close to over as I said sad ain't it of course she has a support net of family me I have not got that as I am from the UK and my folks would not understand as they have been married for 50 yrs or so.