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W just left. Some things about the dinner:

1. We misunderstood the plans. I thought she was coming here first to pick up the mail and weights, she thought we were meeting there. So she called me at 4 saying "are you here?" Not sure if that is bad or good to make her wait til I drove there (10 minutes).

2. I did NOT talk about the R until she asked some questions. I was quiet and she said "Do you have anything to say?" I said "what do you mean?" She said "how are you doing, etc?" I said "Good, I'm trying to keep busy..."

3. I did do a little R talk in a roundabout way. I told her I realized two things: First, if we keep doing more of the same, the same results will come of it, and second, I realized that when people try to give me advice, and I think I am strong and I know myself, and because of this I don't listen, I'm limiting my character depth. (I said this based on a conversation with my C about knowing yourself and not being open to other ideas). I told her I realized that there was a person that I was being for a long time that I wanted to change, and for the wrong reasons, I was not. I kinda gave away that I was changing my behavior (kind of an oops, I didn't want to talk about me).

4. She talked about how things have been for her. She said she thought that once things were settled, she could get back to feeling OK. She said that it hasn't really felt that way though, because this is still hanging and she doesn't feel like she knows where it's going. Her mom didn't want her to say things to the family yet, and was giving her dirty looks at a cousin's bday party because she slipped a couple of times and mentioned the apartment.

5. She noticed that I bought flip flops. I never wore them before, but really thought about my outfit today and decided to get some cuz they fit. She actually NOTICED my flip flops. She is more attentive than I thought. I also bought cologne, and she noticed that when she gave me a hug when leaving the house. She said "New cologne?" I said "Yep"

Overall, things went well. I kept to my "letting her speak" enough for her to notice that I wasn't saying much and to comment on that. It seems like she did a lot of talking about the state of things, but gave zero indication of where her mind is at (whether she wants to work on things, etc). She didn't mention the fact that we barely spoke at all this week. I have a feeling it had to do with the fact that she spent so much time with her cousins (something I KNEW was going to happen). Out of this week she:

1. Went out with them for her cousin's 30th bday
2. Went to their house on Friday to hang out
3. Went to her other cousin's 30th bday party (they are twins)
4. Went to eat with cousin duing the week.

I'm a little disappointed by that, but I did get a lot of small things. I wonder where I go from here. I met my goals with an overall satisfaction of about 95 percent I think (if I were to grade me).