It felt good to be around other people and have her act like my partner, like she still cares about me.
The thing that stands out to me every time I read about one of your evenings or activities is that your wife must feel like she has died and gone to heaven.
I swear I can actually FEEL her joy in the way you describe your interactions together.
Please remember that twice before this woman told you she was done, yet listened to your appeals for another chance. She LISTENED to your VERBAL appeals.
I think it's safe to say that THIS TIME, a verbal appeal was not going to work. So you've done the very thing that needed to be done all along. You looked inside and realized two things.
One, you have not been the man/husband that your wife deserved.
Two, you love this woman enough to become that man.
The things you share about your wife - these are not the actions of a woman who is intent upon moving on without you. And I say this with just a twinge of fear because if you ever begin thinking that you've won her back again, you may be tempted to slip back into the old NDS.
You can never let that happen again.
The positive here is that I think you are beginning to see that it was NOT just the nightly partying together that made things good between you. You are now seeing positives in other areas as well - working around the house, visiting with friends, etc.
Let US here be your positive encouragement about the future of your relationship until your wife is ready to place her trust in you again. I sincerely believe it WILL happen.
Right now she is loving your life together. She is completely caught up in reveling in the love you are showing to each other. Don't be distressed if she avoids verbally giving you the thumbs up on the future. Her actions speak FAR louder than any words would at this point anyway.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
