Hope4us struggle, part 4

[Hope4us]

I'm not going to push for sex. That was just a reply to a post. I'm not going there yet.

Am I going at a snail's pace? Probably. But I know my WW and I feel like right now, pushing is the WRONG thing. If I look at how much progress we've made in the last two weeks, I'm willing to give her some more time and see how it goes. It's what I've been planning for a while. You told me Pup that it took your wife 3 months to commit, correct? I've read a number of books and on another website where our timing is going along nicely. It'll be 9 weeks tomorrow since she claims NC. And with the progress we've made lately, I'm willing to give her more time.

I just know she doesn't respond well to pressure. And if we're making progress why press now? Honestly, the way things have been the last couple weeks, if you didn't know what was going on, you'd swear everything was ok. Isn't that what you want? Get that friendship going? I just don't think it's unreasonable to think that only 9 weeks after the affair ended that she's not totally ready to commit yet. And if I read her correctly, I think she's getting there, but is probably confused with the feelings and doesn't want to hurt me more by getting my hopes up.

Maybe I'm wrong in reading all this, but things are going ok now and I can live with how they're going for a while longer. I will push it when the time comes, but I just don't feel like that time is now.

Just for my own reference Pup, what would you suggest to turn up the heat?