If you / Don't care for it

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Michelle,
I agree with Kalni, I cant see that you have put a foot wrong and he has behaved so inconsistently, you have done well to keep up with him. Its natural to blame yourself, but dont, this is his choice and I cant help thinking of the stuff you told us about his upbringing and how his Dad ran from woman to woman (but is settled now, but I guess the damage was done to your H in that that was the example of a R and the role model he grew up with). If you're looking for someone to blame, blame his Dad! Seriously, I think you have an upward battle having a committed R with your H until he faces up to that stuff and it could take him a few years?

I agree with Lisa also, agree with him as much as you can.. becuase he seems to have a perception of you as stubborn and not giving him what he wants, so give it to him...agree to the S, agree that you havent had much in common lately (because he wouldnt make the time to work on it perhaps). Are you still planning to see him Tuesday night was it?

We're all thinking of you,
Ali xxx