Pregnant and trying to be stronger

[NikB]

(((B)))

Sorry you're having a tough time today.

His parents just ignore it and try to rationalize with him, but he doesn't ever take accountability.

These are two different things - ignoring it is one, trying to rationalize is another. Sounds like neither one works. I'd say the best you can probably do is "act as if" you KNOW it's his fault. You can't make him take accountability, but you can make it clear YOU are not taking accountability, either.

Last night H called breifly. The whole time we were on the phone (5min) he was texting OW. I would have to keep saying "are you still there?" because there were lulls in the conversation - he just wasn't listening - too busy texting while he was talking to me. I don't know what to do about this. Is it okay for me to just say "look, why don't you call me back when you are finished".

1. Don't answer - call back on your terms when you're ready to talk to him.

2. Tell him "sounds like you're busy with something else, talk to you later." and hang up. Then go do something else. Don't be available when he calls back.

When he is at the hospital and when he comes to the house to see the baby, I think that I am going to insist that he leave his phone in the truck.

Totally reasonable, I think.

Maybe they were meant for each other.

So, maybe it is very possible that he has met the woman of his dreams.

All I can say is.. cut it out!!!! Quit dwelling on this stuff.

I'm sorry you're having a tough day. Sounds like time for a break from any contact with H for awhile. It seems to be hurting you and getting you down again.