We are both at the house we have a civil time but she says nothing of plans and I have as I said looked into getting a mortgage and she looks at real estate and discuses the properties with me, but no no time frame as you said she has thought it through it seems and is and does get up set but her and her mum chat it helps her resolve I think, me I am just willing to change but it seems I missed ignored the signs and all the asking has no results, how do I win back what was so vibrant.?