If you / Don't care for it

[MichelleLT]

While he knew about my final, it wouldn't surprise me if he forgot. Of just didn't think about the timing at all. After all, thinking about someone else for a change would interfere with his selfish plans.

[mishka422]

I hear ya sister! Selfishness abounds in these MLCer's.

You are certainly up bright and early on this beautiful Sunday morning! Going out for a run? It might help.

I'm sorry he is such a schmuck.

I had a strange thought....bear with me here, it's EXTREMELY strange. It would be a very interesting experiment in human dynamics if we could gather up all of these MLC spouses and somehow corral them into one community and make it so they couldn't leave. Make the town completely without resources and then watch them have to work together for each other or die. Can you imagine what would happen? Those who choose to remain selfish would be eventually ostracized by those who realized that they needed to aid their fellow man in order to survive themselves.

Ok....I told you it was really a strange thought but it sure would be interesting to watch. We could create our own reality TV show of it and get paid!

(((((((Michelle)))))))))

Take care of you today!

[FLTC]

Michelle,

I kind of feel sorry for your husband. He's sort of pathetic. What ever he's looking for he's NOT going to find it with his current love/lust interest. It just ain't behind that door! I'm not quite sure how you give up a wife who's a hard worker, on the verge of graduating law school for a 23 (21?) year old who has a problem with cutting herself, and has convinced him to join in. If you step back, it just screams pathetic, lost human being. Yikes!

[LolaL]

(((Michelle)))

I am sorry you are going through this right now. It would be so much easier, don't you think, if we could read their minds?

[LolaL]

And Mishka...I really like your idea!!!

[MichelleLT]

Lol Mishka. That's pretty funny.

Somehow I think they would all validate/encourage each other though! It could backfire lol.

I do wish I knew what was going through his head sometimes. Maybe at least then I'd be able to say the right thing so he felt understood.

I was up early because I couldn't sleep. So, I studied for a bit, watched InuYasha, then went back to sleep. My final tomorrow is in the evening, so I need to try and sleep in a bit and/or take a nap so I'm not mentally exhausted by halfway through it.

[LolaL]

(((Michelle))) I hope at least you are feeling a little better. Get rest, take care of you. Remember, from what you and Jeff have told me, this backing away is normal for the WAS, and means they are thinking about things. Give your H that chance, as you have been doing, and keep up the good work!!!

[cw68]

((michelle))

I'm glad you got out of the house last night and enjoyed the music. Was it better than just sitting at home last night? I hope so.

[Kalni]

Good Morning Michelle!

How are you? I was away all day, just came back.

K

[MichelleLT]

I am alternately studying and goofing off. But I am leaving in half an hour for this study group. Hopefully it will be very productive.

This latest bomb with H definitely has me distracted though. I am so frustrated with this whole situation. And honestly feeling quite despairing. With both of us gone so much the next couple months and then him deploying again, I don't know when we'll have time to make good memories to try and change his mind. He's regressed back to saying we have nothing in common, that it won't ever work. I don't know how to show him otherwise.