But the OP is the wrench in our sitches and it's hard to appreciate how big that wrench is. I think the most telling thing W ever said to me was that she didn't realize she was unhappy until she spent several weeks in the field with OM - that's when he seduced her. Hmmm - she shuts down to our M and the possibility of making it work at the same moment she becomes emotionally/physically involved with someone else? But she insists it has nothing to do with it.
When our spouses are involved in an active EA or PA there isn't a lot we can DB-wise other than work on ourselves. Our spouses have to show remorse and a willingness to approach the M.
lodo
My H said the EXACT SAME THING to our MC!! The MC looked like she wanted to hit him in the head with her clipboard. She came right out and told him that he needs to resolve this relationship before moving on to another one.
You are right--we can only work on us for us. Luckily, in that process, we can often end up becoming the greener grass.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
