I could have her served as the reason for divorce. It will cost more money, and she is not obligated to reply to the summons. Then I am still no where then having to re-file under irreconcilable differences.

It can also turn against me with H, H then could play hardball and fight me on everything making it longer and more drawn out and more expensive. Which is what I do not want.

I know and hear what you are saying about seeing another attorney, but at over $300 for initial consults, in this area of the north east. I am running out of money fast. My savings is down to under $2000. I am having trouble figuring out finances, and where I am to get the money. I could get some back out of him with my final legal judgement but that will be totally at the end. Does not help me now.

I have not given him a retainer right now. I have to figure out where I am going to get $5000.



Last edited by phbear316; 06/08/08 03:35 PM.

Me 42-Him 40
T20yrs Married 16yrs
2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore"
6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW
12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce