I didn't include the whole conversation we had about the pool but she had stated before I said what I wrote that she didn't think it was the right thing to do right now for a couple reasons and then she asked me and I replied how I did.
I understand what you're saying about examining everything, but it's who I AM. I come her to vent those frustrations so I don't explode.
I do go out without her. Sometimes I just go and other times I ask if she wants to join me and if she says no, I go anyway.
Food for thought.
And it's not working, at least not to the extent that it needs to for you to be happy.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT.
H4U, it's been a month since I advised you that you need to escalate things, and turn up more heat. I think what Sakaro's observing is that YOU are moving at a snail's pace, and I would submit "hence, so is your wife."
I'm not saying to go scorched earth here. I"m saying, TURN UP THE HEAT.
DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
I do NOT think pushing for sex is the arena in which to make your next play. It's a losing gambit.
