I kind of feel sorry for your husband. He's sort of pathetic. What ever he's looking for he's NOT going to find it with his current love/lust interest. It just ain't behind that door! I'm not quite sure how you give up a wife who's a hard worker, on the verge of graduating law school for a 23 (21?) year old who has a problem with cutting herself, and has convinced him to join in. If you step back, it just screams pathetic, lost human being. Yikes!