My husband want to come home - help!

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Gosh, I feel so back and forth right now. Just when I figure I have a strategy, I wind up tossing it out. That makes sense, though, because sometimes my "strategies" were what hurt us. The "supposed to's" SD wrote about. My husband called them "shoulds." Thank God for all of you and this site.
My husband took Friday off and when I came home the house was practically spotless. He and the kids had done so much work. He took our girls shopping and bought them fashion template craft sets that were way marked down. He made sure I knew how much he paid because he knows how I always try to get things on sale. He and I went out to dinner Friday night with our friends, then he went for drinks at a neighbor's with me yesterday. When we got home, we talked for a while and asked me what home project I thought we should work on first. He already had a list of ideas. Of course, I showered him with praise for all of these things.

I may not have the whole prize, yet, but I have to keep reminding myself that he really isn't acting anything like the man I had before who did little more than sit around, read, watch TV and sleep with very little conversation and in a grouchy mood.
Crammed into the past week was a trip to the movies and dinner with my girlfriends, workouts for me and alone time at his place for him. All things I wouldn't do or give him time to do before.
I do have GAL on my mind and I'm so glad. I just suggested a girl weekend to my friends after we saw Sex and the City.
He is certainly not opposed to counseling - we went through it but he was so focused on OW, it was of no value. Now, I'm convinced he would be focused on us and repair.
He might consider Retrouvaille and I'll discuss with him. I accidentally left this site up on the computer yesterday and he mentioned that he saw it and wondered what was on here. I told him about the great advice I've gotten here and told him about what Saffie wrote - being 100% open and honest, eggshells, etc. And how important it is for us to have total open communication.
Just before I went to bed and he started to leave for his place I told him he was always welcome to stay here overnight if he wished. He said he'd rather do it all at once (meaning move home) and then, "Don't worry, we're gonna make it."
I really do believe that. I think I do just need a little more patience. This probably won't look like it does in the strategies I create in my head. So what, right? As long as we are working and trying and taking one day at a time, I think I can be okay with that.