sigh.... "going dark" is still the wrong thing for you to be doing. "giving him space", sure. but going dark? no.
It sounds like you did the best thing, at his parents' house, though.
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I sent him a quick email. Simple and short. I didn't ask for a response from him, but I simply said something to him that I'd been thinking about in regards to respect. Then, I added that again, I understood his frustration with me, and that I wouldn't want to talk to me either.
its nice that you kind of acknowleged what he said. Doesn't sound like you really went deep enough, though. He is well beyond "frustration". Putting it as that, does not show him that you fully understand the level of pain he is going through, and has gone through, in the past years. If he is in the wrong mood when he reads your email, he may feel like it cheapens his pain.
May I suggest that it takes a man, to fully understand another man's perspective. I have given you the "male perspective" on his feelings and reactions. Both TwinDad, and I say, that it's all about showing him that you can change for the better. "going dark", doesnt do that. Just the opposite, in fact.
PS: What did you tell him "In regards to respect"?
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
