Spouse and I have been living apart a year now. He says he loves me but is frightened of the marriage(and the divorce-we got as far as nisi and he suggested a pause)and of not being able to leave"I couldnt go through that again" We have seen each other every so often and things are fine as long as I dont mention the relationship.Had some counselling around Christmas but he never opened up. He has an emotional affair with OW dumped her last January but pined-then I got bomb in May. We have been married 28 years. I truly think he doesnt want to let me go but is confused "I dont know if we could live as man and wife" and OW is still around though he lives alone. I blew it 4 weeks ago and said I couldnt go on im limbo .He said give him a month and he would see his counsellor! Since then hardly any communication-a friendly text with a kiss on my birthday 9 days ago. Since then-nothing. This is unusual he generally calls every week or so.What to do?I have been trying so hard to detach but this roller coaster is exhausting.Should I go for broke and confront him ? I can afford to give him some more time but not much as I leave work in July and need settlement I will be 60.Havent called him yet-very tempted. So odd this silence after such a friendly text-I think he is scared because the month is up .Any advice please I feel I can hardly think clearly any more x
