Is she a simple WAW or MLC??

[SirPrizeMe]

Doesn't sound like MLC to me.
It sounds more like you just grew apart and the relationship got stale.

That isn't a happy place, but it sure feels salvageable to me.
The good news is you have plenty to do - plenty of work on you. Patience.

The problem is the divorce proceeding will make you feel worse. What I might suggest is that you ignore the legal issues. Try to separate the idea of divorce from the idea of your relationship. I know that sounds odd, but it may be helpful. a divorce is just a piece of paper. Just as a marriage is just a piece of paper. There are plenty of people who are legally married but not really "married", you know what I mean? The paper doesn't make a marriage. And the same is true with the divorce paper. Legally it is meaningful, but the meaning it has for you, and your attitude, is up to you.

If it tortures you that the divorce is proceeding, then you'll feel worse, you'll be tense or more depressed, and that's not where you wanna be. You wanna be patient, comfortable, anchored, calm, steady, and happy. That's what I mean by, keeping the legal issue separate from your relationship...