Still in love with my waw....after divorce

[Bill_S]

agent86,

Feel free to post whatever you want here too or even email me. Im not online as much as I used to be but Ill check out your thread and help however I can.



germo4,

So I don't know if that hurt is a testament to our character of standing for our commitment or if we are just messed up people who can't move on. Either way, I think its better than just being able to move on without feeling bad about it. Dare I say, "we're better than that"?

I agree. The hurt is a PROUD testment. While others gave up, turned there backs and walked away, seemingly without feeling, we kept trying. We never let anything "shut down" our feelings. But maybe thats women. Ive always been told once they stop loving you its over, period. But I dont think thats entirely true. I always saw little glimmers of hope from her. But its over now. Theres a "quiet nobility" in suffering. We dont just go thru the motions and fake it to look good or smooth things over until we get our way. We honestly want a make things better. So remeber the nobility in your heart. And chevelle is right about your ex cheating. From what my Pastor told me its the one thing that truly severs the bond in Gods eyes. Not that its a clean cut without pain. So we can move on when we are ready with a clear heart.


Chevelle,

Yes...going thru all those emotions is the worst part I think. Especially when you think you are finally done and something new pops up. I still sometimes feel a twinge of pain over her. But now its pretty much about the family thats gone now. Im still alone and maybe thats for the best right now. At least Ill be able to focus on the things that need fixing. And I do still get angry when I think about what she threw away. Especially for someone who most likely will drop her at some point. But thats her choice and Ill make the best of it.


Theres nowhere to go but up!

Bill