Yeah, I can understand having a contingency plan. But its tough to plan for the various scenarios that you could get.

Just try to stick to your calm, friendly & rational guns.

If he seems like he wants to talk about stuff, react positively but perhaps hint that you are busy and would rather have proper time to talk. This perhaps would let him know you arent going to be difficult to deal with while giving you some time to prepare for that discussion.

Dont slam the door shut unless of course you want to. Maybe more like a 'wow, didnt really expect this from you. I wish I didnt have yadda, yadda, yadda to do today. Maybe we can talk soon?


Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now