from an article i read. is this why my ex makes my life hell



I should, however, clarify that there are exceptions to making elegant breakups. While you should always maintain a pleasant demeanor (mean behavior does not help anyone), it is perfectly acceptable to let your disappointment be known when the person has hurt you by cheating or otherwise breaking the rules of the relationship. Such honorable behavior might earn you the respect of your partner and also make her/him realize the gravity of the situation. In fact an approach like this might even make the relationship work again. As Dr. Robert Huizenga, author of the book "Break Free From The Affair" points out, "80% of those who divorce during an affair regret the decision and over 75% who marry partners in an affair eventually divorce."

I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.