Well, we went looking for pools, found one we liked and WW asked me what I thought. I said to her it looked good, but what about us? She said "what do you mean"? I said "I want to know where we are going. I don't want a roommate". She said "I don't know what's going to happen". So I said "I don't think I want to go into debt if she couldn't at least tell me we're headed in the right direction".
So why even go looking for pools? The we will buy a pool if you agree to come back to me thing reeks of you wanting to control her. Right now you are the fallback plan and until you can convince her that the fallback plan isnt good enough for you I dont expect anything to change.
Go out, by yourself. Dont ask her to come with you, dont tell her where you are going. Quit trying to figure out what she is thinking because she doesnt even know what she is thinking. Stop trying to figure out why she is reading a certain book, You keep examing her looking for answers. There are no answers because right now she doesnt even know what the questions are.
You know you deserve better and THAT IS why you keep finding yourself getting angry about the lack of progress. You cant understand why she doesnt see what everyone else so clearly can. I know its a cliche but you need to think of it like a game of tug of war. You can keep pulling her to you and she'll keep fighting and pulling back. Why not let go of the rope and watch her fall on her butt?
