We had severe weather all around us here, and some tornado sightings a little northwest of us..but just strong winds and heavy rain. There were some small tress, and large limbs down, but nothing much else..thankfully. The storm came in earnest just as I had punched out from work. LOL I'm glad that house was vacant!! Your H may need some 'head work', but I certainly don't want a tree to be bonking him on his head!!
I know how hard it must be to try to think of how exactly, and what exactly it is that you want H to understand. I'm glad that I'm not in your position, but I do understand that after 2 years you feel that you need to set some boundaries for yours and your kids' wellbeing. I guess the best way of doing it is from the heart. Do it with love, but do it with the knowledge that it is something that you all need at this time. Boundaries can sometimes cause positives to be birthed. Just like an unruly child who lacks attention sometimes likes to get disciplined, because that shows them that they are noticed/acknowledged. So instead of walking on eggshells around your H, he may take notice that you've given this alot of thought, and he'll be impressed enough by it, that he will respect you more because of it. Don't know if that came out right...the thought is in my head, but the words are coming out all jumbled up...loooooong day at work. (snicker) *You ever notice how ornery and crabby people can get when it's hot and humid out??*
Why don't you try putting your thoughts and words on paper first...see how it looks and sounds to yourself. And when you have tweaked it just right, you'll know it. Then tear that paper up, and verbalise it to your H in a calm, loving way.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
