Why is the whole thing so predictable?

As I've mention, I've been backing off. Not hugging hello or goodbye, but not being unfriendly or anything. Today I worked at our health club and H came by with the kids. When I was finishing my shift, H and kids came to leave. H asked me if I wanted to come over to his apartment for lunch. I accepted and thanked him. We had an uneventful lunch where I spent most of my time tuned to the kids. After lunch H was reading and the kids read me books, after which I said I had to leave to do house chores and yard work. Hugged and kissed the kids goodbye, cheerfully said goodbye to H, no hug or anything.

H just came by to pick up S5's baseball mitt. He went to leave, gave me this sappy look, said, "Goodbye CW68" and lifted his arm to me showing me that he wanted a hug. We hugged, lightly at first and then he hugged me so tightly. I pulled back a little, looked him in the eyes and he kissed me on the lips. Nothing passionate, but there you go. You move, they pull. You pull, the move. Stupid.

AURGH


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.