You have the alarm for a reason. I wouldn't make things easy. Be like Ron Popeil and, "Set it, and forget it." Then I'd just act real blonde if he asks you anything about it..."Ohhhh, I am SO sorry! I have been so busy, and I just forgot. Boy, I SURE hope it didn't inconvenience you!"
And then I'd give him the new code.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
You have the alarm for a reason. I wouldn't make things easy. Be like Ron Popeil and, "Set it, and forget it." Then I'd just act real blonde if he asks you anything about it..."Ohhhh, I am SO sorry! I have been so busy, and I just forgot. Boy, I SURE hope it didn't inconvenience you!"
He thinks he "lost" the remote, right? Well, then he has his consequence for losing the alarm remote... I wouldn't give him the new code and I would definitely set the alarm. Also, my cell phone would be turned OFF and the ringer at my parent's house would be set to OFF. He wouldn't be able to reach me.
Note? What note?
But I'm a bad, naughty, bad girl and you're not, Sara.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Like I said before. I am tired. Tired of playing the games, tired of being mean. Tired of him in general. I don't want to be that way anymore. I just want him to go away. I am not giving him the new code. The reason it changed was because he is not welcomed in this house while he openly and carelessly goes about having an affair. He is only in this house because legally he can be.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Well all that will happen is the police will come and want to know what is wrong. He will have to tell him that his wife is evil and changed the code to the alarm and he doesn't have the new code. They will take down his name and see his ID that he lives here and go on their way. The alarm will call my mom's house at whatever time in the middle of the night this happens.
I just don't want to deal with it. I think I will leave the alarm off again tonight.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
We get charged $50 for every 'oops' call the police have to make to our house due to an alarm issue.
I have no answer for you on the alarm. You are doing so well being straight forward with him, I guess you could tell him that he isn't welcome in the house, doesn't live there anymore, and therefore doesn't need the new code.
You are doing so well.
I would have shredded the shirt into pieces and thrown it away. If asked about it, I would play dumb.
