I would just like to say that I am not trying to conradict Dom. I usually agree very much with his advice. In this case, though, I think Dom is projecting too much of his own personality onto your H. I think if Dom were your husband, all his advice would work. But your H is not Dom.
You know your H best, and you know how best to approach him. I think you need to decide what you think is best for you.
