If you / Don't care for it

[AliSuddenly]

Well at least you havent lost your sense of humour girl!

I read sugar&spices post and thought, I agree with that. I didnt explain it as well, but I guess let him go.. and then GoingForward summed it up even better.. very insightful post. I didnt spot that - that he said he didnt agree with D either and JUST wants a separation for now.

He is clearly feeling frustrated and concerned about the work issues and wants some clarity and he is under the impression that you wont budge...so a great 180 might be to say ok then..if he asks you for this separation thing? If you let him explain why he wants it so badly, maybe just be giving and loving and agree, if thats what you want, ok. If you love them, set them free... I know its so hard, but you cant make someone love you or stay with you, even if you are M on paper and if its winding him up that much that you wont agree, maybe agree...he may change his mind if you did !?

I dont know, I think we all feel a little like we wish we could help you more.

Ali xxx